Saturday, 30 July 2011

(Updated 9th Sept) Lixie's Adventures with Gentlemen Chapter 4 in which Lixie uses swear words

(Update at end of post)
I am a shit magnet.
shit fountain
Let me explain....the most recent adventures have been someone I met through someone else, not through the godawful matchaffinity. We were emailing back and forth for two weeks and then went on a first date on Thursday.
Date Street
Two hours of chat and a bit of kissing. Nice.

Emails restart the following day. Mid afternoon he suggests meeting up that evening as well. I had an evening of pinboard activity planned (actually pinboard, not pinterest) but I decided to forego it and meet him again.
Pimms at the Tate Modern Bar where we both decided there was too much traffic for snogging and so went to sit on the grass outside.

THREE HOURS later he walks me to the tube with me sporting the latest in teenage accessories.
love bite hickey
As we're walking I'm saying that one of the reasons I hate dating is because you have to have these conversations about exclusivity. "Is that a second date conversation?" he asks. Fortunately undeterred I continue at which point he says (and to be fair I may be paraphrasing) "Actually I'm kind of already seeing someone but it's ok because it's waning. I didn't tell you because I wanted to see what you were like before I did anything else."
surprised jude

Before concluding that the man is at best amazingly naive and at worst a cheating weasel, let's review the evidence.

  1. I had already asked him in an email whether he was a cheating weasel (exact words used) because I hold views on such things. 
  2. We had been emailing for two weeks with the stated intention of eventually going on a date, during which time he was presumably in an un-waning relationship with this other woman. 
  3. I had been 100% upfront about both the divorce and the depression.
  4. During early emails we had discussed our approaches to relationships and I had described mine as 'open and honest'. 
  5. He didn't volunteer this information to me until I asked him directly, and initially tried to avoid the question. 
  6. He has a "try before you buy" philosophy.
  7. He's given me a fucking glow-in-the-dark hicky. 


9th September Update
Since the episode related above happened I have ended up getting to know the man involved rather better. We've actually become pretty good friends. I have therefore had a chance to revise the impression I had of him and would like to issue the following correction:
  1. He did not set out to decieve.
  2. He is not a try-before-you-buy kinda guy.
  3. He is therefore possibly not anymore weasel-like than the rest.
I suppose we've all met people who seemed really nice at first only to turn out to be utter bastards. This is a rare case of the opposite being true. It almost makes me think there is some point going back to dating. Almost. 
9th September Update 2
Ok ok geez. And I gave him 2 hickeys. BUT they were barely discernable.

Sunday, 24 July 2011

Crafty Shortlist

I'm in a bit of a home building phase. It's certainly not for any broody reason since I am the most single of the singles, but more to make the flat feel properly like home. The wail of renters everywhere - there's not much I can do to alter the colours, layout, shelving etc but there are little things.

I've always liked mobiles and have been thinking of a cloud one for a while.

Source: via Alex on Pinterest

I'd also like to add some hot air balloons.
Source: via Alex on Pinterest

I've also been thinking about bunting or something like that. I made some for people at xmas.
Sian's Bunting
But I've been thinking about some of this kind of one instead. Not really sure.
Source: via Alex on Pinterest

Then maybe some things on the windows.

Hearts are a bit twee though. Maybe hot air balloons? Or clouds. On a bit of a cloud bender at the moment.

My hexagon patchwork duvet top nears completion so that will brighten up the bedroom, along with my newly painted fire engine red bedside cabinet. If I had my own place I'd love it to be something like this:

Lots of white but with colourful highlights. With one wall covered in corkboards...

Maybe one corkboard would be feasible even now....excuse me, must look at how much they are....
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